October 25th 1:00 pm
The house is clean.
The closet is built.
And we are finally settling in.
It's time to meet with our adoption specialist aka social worker and get back on the waiting list. Jeff and I have worked hard to meet the requirements of the agency since moving into the house. There have been a lot of ups and downs on my part emotionally with all of it. I will admit that I'm a rollercoaster with all this from buying the house, having to put the adoption plan on hold, and everything else!
There have been many nights of me crying and ready to give up on the hopes of adoption. When we bought the house we had agreed that the adoption money wouldn't be touched, then the boiler went during one of the coldest winters we have had since moving to Sussex County. Then this summer our electric had to get updated do to sparking issues. Meanwhile I had my gallbladder removed and my Achilles tendon repaired. Frustrated, over emotional, and the feeling of complete loneliness took me to a weak point. Puppies was my go to plan, I would fill the house with puppies because we all know puppies fix the heart. Jeff stood the ground that we wouldn't give up on the adoption and that Winnie didn't want a four legged sibling. I still believe we need at least one more four legged child but I will wait for that to happen.
So that brings us to that day almost two weeks ago when we had our home inspection. I didn't stress out about cleaning the house because we are careful to not let our ADHD get out of control. So we did our normal dust, vacuum, and clean the bathrooms for the week. I tried to hang my favorite piece of art work in the newly painted dining room but the wall won the war.
That morning I went to work like normal, Jeff and Winnie were cuddled up in bed. I left it all in Gods hands and knew we had worked hard to make this old house a home. I worked a half day, came home and we waited for our adoption specialist to show up. We were also going to meet our new AS since ours got promoted so I knew this wouldn't be a short visit.
When they arrived we introduced them to Winnie and then put her in the kennel so we could tour the house and talk. They confirmed that the guns were stored safely, ammunition was kept in a separate area, all of which we have always been proactive with. We discussed the future nursery and I explained I wouldn't set one up until we are placed. (this is very normal they just want to know your plans). Then we sat and talked about our adoption plan. Yes every time you meet with your AS they go over you adoption plan. (I briefly talked about it in envelope part II
but I will cover it more in the future). We also discussed if there were any expected mothers who may start looking at profiles soon, and if we want to start looking into other avenues such as out of state child services. We have gone national through the agency's domestic program a while back and will stick on that plan. Jeff had to head out early for work, but as always he asked questions when he was there. When they left that day we were officially fully active again.
So now we wait.....We wait to be asked if we want our profile shown to an expected mother, we wait for God to guide us to our baby, and we wait for Winnie to be a big sister.
And I nest!!!! Yes I'm nesting like crazy. But I'm nesting on Donna level.. What does that mean? I want to demo things, building things, paint things, decorate things, create things!!! I have drawn out new floor plans for the second floor and future 1st floor mud room/ laundry room. I want to take down chimneys, put up drywall, and paint paint paint! When I nest I go all the way. But I have to be careful because we could get placed at anytime and demolition can't be happening. So keep us in your prayers as we wait. Visit with us, offer to lend a hand in my nesting craziness, or just remind Jeff that at least I'll get a lot done!
I will keep blogging about different adoption topics but please understand when we do get closer to being placed we will be very private about it. So private that our parent's won't even know. We will do this to protect ourselves, any expected parents we may work with, and our future child. Until next time thank you, and please feel free to comment, ask questions, or just say hi below!
It's time to meet with our adoption specialist aka social worker and get back on the waiting list. Jeff and I have worked hard to meet the requirements of the agency since moving into the house. There have been a lot of ups and downs on my part emotionally with all of it. I will admit that I'm a rollercoaster with all this from buying the house, having to put the adoption plan on hold, and everything else!
There have been many nights of me crying and ready to give up on the hopes of adoption. When we bought the house we had agreed that the adoption money wouldn't be touched, then the boiler went during one of the coldest winters we have had since moving to Sussex County. Then this summer our electric had to get updated do to sparking issues. Meanwhile I had my gallbladder removed and my Achilles tendon repaired. Frustrated, over emotional, and the feeling of complete loneliness took me to a weak point. Puppies was my go to plan, I would fill the house with puppies because we all know puppies fix the heart. Jeff stood the ground that we wouldn't give up on the adoption and that Winnie didn't want a four legged sibling. I still believe we need at least one more four legged child but I will wait for that to happen.
So that brings us to that day almost two weeks ago when we had our home inspection. I didn't stress out about cleaning the house because we are careful to not let our ADHD get out of control. So we did our normal dust, vacuum, and clean the bathrooms for the week. I tried to hang my favorite piece of art work in the newly painted dining room but the wall won the war.
That morning I went to work like normal, Jeff and Winnie were cuddled up in bed. I left it all in Gods hands and knew we had worked hard to make this old house a home. I worked a half day, came home and we waited for our adoption specialist to show up. We were also going to meet our new AS since ours got promoted so I knew this wouldn't be a short visit.
When they arrived we introduced them to Winnie and then put her in the kennel so we could tour the house and talk. They confirmed that the guns were stored safely, ammunition was kept in a separate area, all of which we have always been proactive with. We discussed the future nursery and I explained I wouldn't set one up until we are placed. (this is very normal they just want to know your plans). Then we sat and talked about our adoption plan. Yes every time you meet with your AS they go over you adoption plan. (I briefly talked about it in envelope part II
but I will cover it more in the future). We also discussed if there were any expected mothers who may start looking at profiles soon, and if we want to start looking into other avenues such as out of state child services. We have gone national through the agency's domestic program a while back and will stick on that plan. Jeff had to head out early for work, but as always he asked questions when he was there. When they left that day we were officially fully active again.
So now we wait.....We wait to be asked if we want our profile shown to an expected mother, we wait for God to guide us to our baby, and we wait for Winnie to be a big sister.
And I nest!!!! Yes I'm nesting like crazy. But I'm nesting on Donna level.. What does that mean? I want to demo things, building things, paint things, decorate things, create things!!! I have drawn out new floor plans for the second floor and future 1st floor mud room/ laundry room. I want to take down chimneys, put up drywall, and paint paint paint! When I nest I go all the way. But I have to be careful because we could get placed at anytime and demolition can't be happening. So keep us in your prayers as we wait. Visit with us, offer to lend a hand in my nesting craziness, or just remind Jeff that at least I'll get a lot done!
I will keep blogging about different adoption topics but please understand when we do get closer to being placed we will be very private about it. So private that our parent's won't even know. We will do this to protect ourselves, any expected parents we may work with, and our future child. Until next time thank you, and please feel free to comment, ask questions, or just say hi below!
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