We have come to the 1 month mark of what could be a long wait. Since we don't know when things will happen we have made a list of the important things we want to have in the house. After much discussion with Jeff about a baby shower and when we would feel comfortable to have one we have decided that we wouldn't do anything until we are placed.
Why you may ask?
This is a multi layered answer.
1.Adoption is really a roller coaster. Today I could be fine and handle a shower with no issues. But between now and when it would be held we could be picked and have an expected mother change her mind. I would then be devastated. No matter how much you prepare yourself it's still going to hurt.
2.I'm nesting! Yes adoptive mothers nest and I haven't finished cleaning out every inch of the condo. Before I bring a large amount of things home I want to make sure I am prepared.
3.We really don't need a ton of stuff the first few weeks. Heck we don't even know if we will be home right away. If the baby is born out of state we will have to travel and wait for all the paper work to clear.
So until we are placed Jeff and I have our list of things we need. Slowly we are building our baby stock pile. We have our list of things we want, things we need, and things we can live with out. Strangely enough nothing with hunting or fishing has made the list. But we have gotten some great things including the ottoman we got for 1/2 off.
So we wait for our book to be viewed, interviews to happen, and that exciting day we are handed our child. Then and only then will we buy that final important bringing home baby item. Our car Seat!
