Informing the Future Grandparents

I was blessed with parents that understand that not ever couple wants kids or are able to easily have kids. So when Jeff and I realized something was wrong and we needed to seek medical help with starting our family I knew I had the support of my parents. Jeff is also blessed with a very understanding mother and we knew she would support us through it all. My mom probable got most of the information because she was my go to person when I had medical questions which I had tons of. I can actually say our fertility journey helped me build a closer relationship with my mom then I had ever had. Of course we still drive each other crazy because well that's us!

So when I had finally had enough with hormone injections and the monthly disappointment of not being pregnant I told my mom. It wasn't an easy decision because I had always dreamed of that moment when you could feel the baby inside you, and having people get excited about the fact you had sex and got knocked up! I mourned the loss of that experience, the opportunity to bring a baby into the world that was half me and half Jeff. But having my mothers support during that time was helpful. Jeff and I had long conversations on our future and we agreed we wouldn't say anything to anyone else until we decided what path we would follow.

Easter 2016--So we had gone to the two information meetings that we had picked and knew with in days of the Bethany meeting the path we both wanted to do. Luckily we were having dinner with our parents on Easter. Our other guests had to change their plans and things fell into place perfectly. It was time to tell our parents the plan to do a domestic infant adoption!

We had discussed that we would talk to the parents together at the condo before we headed out for dinner. But once again my well laid out plan got changed because Jeff had to sleep because he had work that night. So we went with the divide and concur technique and told our parents on the way to the Walpack Inn!  We had asked them to keep the information to their self until we made the big announcement!

Of course they were all excited but I was shocked in how few questions they all had.
Adoption today is so different then it was 30 years ago. Hell it's different from 10 years ago. There are new terms used, new processes used, and even for people who know people who are adopted it is a unknown world.

Of course we welcome questions about the process and that day is when I decided to start this blog. I want to help answer question, keep our family and friends informed, and even though a baby isn't growing in my belly it is my heart and this is were you will find that love grow!