I have gotten the same question from people
"What is it like to be going through the adoption process?"
So I decided I would answer it here in multi blog response over the next week. If you have any questions as I go over it please feel free to comment so I can answer. I love to answer questions and nothing is off limits.
First you have to break it into 5 different categories.
1 The application and approval
2 The waiting to be picked
3 The possible selection
4 The chosen and waiting again
5 The placement and forever
I like to compare the entire process to pregnancy. I have offended people by doing this because they say I couldn't understand but I personally believe anyone who has struggled with fertility has an amazing understanding of the emotions involved.
Finding the right partner
The Application processes
Just like looking for the right spouse or partner to create a future with, the agency application process can be a whirlwind experience. Of course there is a lot more paperwork and back ground checks with adoption, but it really is a get to know you process. You also have the excitement if you chose to announce to the world that your making a commitment to each other.
Trying to get pregnant
Waiting to be picked
So this one is pretty simple in the comparison. You do your part to make things happen but honestly you have no control on what happens so you just have to trust in God.
Waiting for test results
The possible selection
So this is the part you've been waiting for! That positive test results or in the adoption world the message on your portal saying you've been selected! Of course you still can't say anything to anyone because things do happen beyond your control.
The first trimester
The Chosen and waiting again
This is the hardest part because you want to shout it from the mountain that there is going to be a baby!!! OMG someone trusts me to be a mother!!! Holy crap!! But just like a first trimester being picked doesn't guarantee you anything. At birth the mother can decided to parent the baby and just like a miscarriage you will need to learn to move on with the loss. There is no answers to why this happens but we all always blame ourselves.
Labor and Delivery
The placement and forever
This comparison can be literal if you have a expected mother who wants you there in labor and delivery or metaphorically. The placement in the exciting time, the time where after all the waiting, and emotions you finally get to hold that baby in your arms. You finally get to share they joyful news with your family, celebrate the new arrival, and start to feel like thousands of new parents around the world.
The next blog will be about what the emotions are like from my view point during the 5 different processes. Tomorrow will be The Application and Approval Processes.
"What is it like to be going through the adoption process?"
So I decided I would answer it here in multi blog response over the next week. If you have any questions as I go over it please feel free to comment so I can answer. I love to answer questions and nothing is off limits.
First you have to break it into 5 different categories.
1 The application and approval
2 The waiting to be picked
3 The possible selection
4 The chosen and waiting again
5 The placement and forever
I like to compare the entire process to pregnancy. I have offended people by doing this because they say I couldn't understand but I personally believe anyone who has struggled with fertility has an amazing understanding of the emotions involved.
Finding the right partner
The Application processes
Just like looking for the right spouse or partner to create a future with, the agency application process can be a whirlwind experience. Of course there is a lot more paperwork and back ground checks with adoption, but it really is a get to know you process. You also have the excitement if you chose to announce to the world that your making a commitment to each other.
Trying to get pregnant
Waiting to be picked
So this one is pretty simple in the comparison. You do your part to make things happen but honestly you have no control on what happens so you just have to trust in God.
Waiting for test results
The possible selection
So this is the part you've been waiting for! That positive test results or in the adoption world the message on your portal saying you've been selected! Of course you still can't say anything to anyone because things do happen beyond your control.
The first trimester
The Chosen and waiting again
This is the hardest part because you want to shout it from the mountain that there is going to be a baby!!! OMG someone trusts me to be a mother!!! Holy crap!! But just like a first trimester being picked doesn't guarantee you anything. At birth the mother can decided to parent the baby and just like a miscarriage you will need to learn to move on with the loss. There is no answers to why this happens but we all always blame ourselves.
Labor and Delivery
The placement and forever
This comparison can be literal if you have a expected mother who wants you there in labor and delivery or metaphorically. The placement in the exciting time, the time where after all the waiting, and emotions you finally get to hold that baby in your arms. You finally get to share they joyful news with your family, celebrate the new arrival, and start to feel like thousands of new parents around the world.
The next blog will be about what the emotions are like from my view point during the 5 different processes. Tomorrow will be The Application and Approval Processes.
So far, I saw that your optimistic, you must proper chuffed in your kind of writings! There's a lot of things that are not appreciated enough and this one is needed to be emphasized to others, I wonder if you try laundry and dry cleaning seems helpful to you?
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